When a non-Asian person tries to talk to me and tells me he’s attracted to Asians and their culture, I’m like, “HOLD UP THERE, BRUH.”
I wonder, are they talking to me only because I’m Asian, or because they’re actually attracted to me as an individual? Chances are, it’s the former. No wait…it’s definitely 100% the former.
Usually when this happens, that person doesn’t see me as an individual, but a fetish. If I reject him, he’ll go for another Asian, and if the same thing happens, he’ll go for another. We’re all lumped into one category, and he’s pursuing us because we’re all Asian. The same. No distinguished qualities.
I’ve seen a few Asian friends do that to guys, and I understand where they’re coming from. Which brings me to my next topic. Non-Asians going after Asians because of their ethnicity or culture is one thing. But a topic I don’t read upon too often is when an Asian obsesses over another Asian.
Let me clarify. What’s hot in the Asian community right now? That’s right. K-Pop and K-Dramas. I see a lot of Asians obsess over them, so they end up being into Korean culture and wanting a Korean boyfriend. You know, to call him their ‘oppa’ and how much they ‘saranghaeyo’. (I’ll admit I went through that wanting a Korean boyfriend phase, holy fucking shit that was fucking embarrassing and I’m so glad I’m over it!). Japanese pop culture is also huge and and people want a Japanese lover. Of course, I notice that wanting a Korean/Japanese lover is more in the straight Asian community.
In the Gaysian community, however, I notice from Tumblr that Filipinos and Viets seem to be popular. They are generally seen as great dancers and have great fashion sense, and pho is a favorite dish of many. So I see a lot of ‘I want a Filipino/Viet boyfriend’ from all these Gaysians.
Which of course, leaves the rest of us Asian groups in the back burner because we aren’t as ‘cool’. The issue I’m wanting to address is, would it seem hypocritical if an Asian is pissed over a non-Asian drooling over them, but yet fetisizing(?) another Asian’s culture? The excuse I’m guessing would be common is "But I’m Asian and they’re Asian, so it doesn’t count!"
I’m not any of the ethnicities above, but regardless, I’m proud of my own culture and I don’t care about being on anyone’s wish list. I’m cute and that’s all I care about ;-).
But this post is some food for thought and it would be interesting to hear many different opinions.